How does mediation work?

How much does mediation cost?

How long does a mediation process take?

What can you expect from us?

Take care of the children!


The big advantage of divorce mediation is that you, as partners, keep control of your own affairs. The outcome depends on you, not on lawyers or the judgment of a judge.

There are only advantages to mediation:

- You save costs and time,

- you search together for solutions and arrangements,

- we strive for consensus and win-win solutions,

- the children are central,

- less stress and less uncertainty.

How does mediation work?

  • 1/ You contact us for a joint intake interview. We ask the other partner to confirm that he or she will be present.

  • 2/ After the free intake interview, you decide if you want to continue with the mediation.

  • 3/ If you continue with the mediation, we will sign a 'mediation protocol' together with the outlines:
    • secrecy and confidentiality,
    • full disclosure of relevant information,
    • voluntary participation of each partner.

  • 4/ Together with an experienced mediator, you will search for solutions to disputes, problems and settlements. In the course of the process, provisional agreements, partial agreements, revisions occur ... but we will continue until there is a general agreement that clearly and properly regulates all subjects for both partners.

  • 5/ As lawyers, we cast the global agreement into a legally conclusive document that we submit to the court. We pay particular attention to this document in order to avoid disputes or problems of interpretation.

Please contact us for more information.

How much does mediation cost?

Each mediation is made-to-measure, which means that the cost price is also made-to-measure. If you decide to continue with the mediation, we will set a fixed price for the entire process. You each pay half. There are no financial surprises.

Divorce mediation is not subject to VAT. So you save 21%.

How long does a mediation process take?

Count on about 12 weeks to reach a mediated agreement. Along the way, partial agreements are often concluded that we evaluate and review. You are closely involved in the entire process. This causes less stress than, for example, the uncertainty of a judicial decision.

By way of comparison: a divorce through the courts has an average processing time of about two years. 

This is what you can expect from us:

- Clear explanation (in advance) about our role as mediator and what we can offer.

- All urgent matters are dealt with: children, house, possessions, child support ... The interests of the children are always paramount.

- Clear and effective communication about your concerns.

- ‘Multilateral partiality': we point out the interests of each partner and also make the interests of the other visible and discussible.

- Supporting both partners and the children with care for everyone's interests and concerns.

- Information about the financial and legal consequences of the divorce. You can count on our many years of experience as a family lawyer here.

- Legal support in drawing up the agreements.

- Tax optimisation of the maintenance fees.

Caring for the children

How children react when their parents decide to divorce strongly depends on their age, gender, personality, place in the (children's) line ... Each child deals with a divorce differently.

The children are confronted with many changes and lose part of their familiar environment.

That is why there is room for the children in our mediation. This can be done in different ways:

- We advise you on support and guidance for the children during this difficult period.

- We let the children - depending on their age - indicate what is important to them when developing arrangements. However, this active participation should never place an additional burden on the children.

To this end, we work together with recognised family mediator Catherine De Bruyne. In a safe and clear setting she lets children express what is important to them, this is done through creative and activating methods (working with images, drawings, metaphors) adapted to the age of the child.

- Sometimes a joint discussion is possible between children and parents with the support of both mediators (Catherine De Bruyne for the children and Wouter De Canck for the parents).

Involving the children is not a must, but experience shows that they are often a powerful guide in showing what is valuable and important for future arrangements.

Please contact us for more information.